Your spouse’s bond with their parents doesn’t need you as a middle monkey,
the bond you have with your mother in law /father in law doesn’t need to pave its way through any middle monkey, the bond between you and your spouse doesn’t need siblings as a middle monkey, the bond between your spouse and his/her siblings doesn’t need you as a middle monkey.
Middle monkeys are those who desperately become a wedge between other family members or a couple. These middle monkeys sail through life by playing the divide and rule trick. Until and unless one asks for help to act like a mediator , one must refrain from giving their unsolicited advise and opinions. These people thrive and survive on negativity, they can’t stand two people having privacy , having direct communication and connection. Such middle monkeys believe that everyone must pave their bond through them, like paying a toll tax to them. This toll tax for these middle monkeys is entitlement to know all your private business, your weaknesses , your desires, your issues and everything about you, other person and your bond.
Middle monkeys are highly insecure, jealous people who feel at ease only when they are sure that no two people are close to each other but every person must be only close to them. To them, Closeness means control, they must tell me their secrets, they must give me all their attention, they must pamper me the most, I must be the number one on their priority list at all times, I will have my way with everyone, I must control their mind so much so that they don’t even realize that what they think of each other is actually what I want them to think of each other, they don’t even know that how they feel towards each other is what I want them to feel , what they should do and shouldn’t do for each other is what I want. People brainwashed here don’t even know that they are brainwashed !! After all, this is what politics is!!
Sly, insidious, subliminal…..Politics isn’t direct, its hidden, it’s not all bitter and sharp, it’s mixed with the exact amount of ” situational and conditional” sweetness and softness. It’s not ‘hey I am jealous and insecure, let me be the middle monkey and add more fuel to the fire. Rather it is a mask that shows desperation to help. Remember the difference between a genuine offer of help and desperation to help, this is interference, control and domination under the guise of help.
You think this mediator is advising whereas they are telling you their intention and their own desire regarding your matters which is to always keep the drama going on between others so that this toxic person can come as a rescuer. Oh, they love to create chaos and then act like they are the thread that keeps the relations of others intact but ask yourself why do adults need three wrists with threads to keep the bond between two intact. A genuine well wisher acts as a third person who helps first day by being a transparent mediator and leaves the scenario the second day regardless of what the concerned parties decide to do, real well wishers worry about unknowingly creating misinformation or miscommunication , real well wishers worry that what if I am unable to convey the message and its meaning properly, what if I say something wrong, what if I project my own issues on these two people, these two know their own self, their bond with each other better, what if I advise wrongly but fake well wishers, If you look closely you will see restlessness, desperation , like a hawk watching closely ready to attack , like an immoral , corrupted judge who is ready to declare with such strong conviction as if the judgement is premeditated, the hearing of the case, the evidence, the facts all must be manipulated and presented in such a way that it resonates with the judgement that has already been made, toxic mediator says to themselves, “this is what I want for these people around me but I shall make them believe that this is what they want for themselves and their relationships”. Truth is they are miserable within themselves and their fake marriages and love to meddle in other’s because misery loves company!
