How do real well-wishers behave ?
Good-hearted people who truly want good for you always carry a slight fear and uncertainty while advising you.
Their conscience questions them:
What if I am advising wrong?
What if my advice spoils something for them?
They respect your discernment.
They remind you to use your own judgment.
They acknowledge that you understand your situation better than anyone else.
If they say things like “Oh world is cruel, you are so innocent , I am looking out for you and they themselves act naive( fake naive) , codependent and use others and it’s always others doing everything for them , feeling sorry for them then how come they get to guide you about the world ?
Truth is they are the cunning foxes who play dumb, poor me, damsel in distress to use others and then when they see you making decisions they come and act like you know nothing! ( When they are the ones acting like they know nothing and you have to do everything for them till eternity sacrificing your entire life ) Couch potatoes who run their mouth and influence others too much are just fooling everyone around to outsource everything that belongs to others to themselves !
Real well wishers –
They guide but they do not impose.
They respect free will and personal space.
Even God gives humans personal space and free will to perform their own karma.
Divine help also comes to those who help themselves.
Similarly, genuine people do not try to control your choices.
How do fake well-wishers behave?
1- They are rigid, judgmental, and adamant.
2- They may act nonchalant and calm but picture them shaking in their boots and obsessed with your life and its matters.
Their own life is a TV noise in the background and your life is the cellphone in their hand!
It is fake and just for the show ; they are miserable and always running and hiding it behind hedonistic lifestyle.
3- They act happy but truly they are always on the phone discussing your life, gossiping, lying and turning people against you in subtle, soft sell approach way.
4- Always eyeing what and who belongs to others and will accuse the honest ones of these evil practises just to make sure that people they have kept under their spell for decades or even “generations” must not slip away from their control !
5- They sound overly certain and absolute in their opinions but can’t accept both parties ever coming face to face to discuss and clarify things.
7- They expect you to treat their advice as the final word.
8- They appear desperate and overly devoted to your matters.
Devotion must match history.
Close ones caring deeply is natural.
But if someone has been self-centered all their life,
If they never matched your level of love and care,
And suddenly they become intensely involved in your matters —
→ That shift is a red flag.
Sudden obsession is suspicious.
They seem uninterested in their own life and enjoyment.
9- They talk too much and a lot regarding events that happened ( their false version being repeated over and over again ) they can’t stand anyone else ever getting a chance to speak the truth.
Their mouth runs all the time regarding all the matters.
10- Their focus is on your issues which actually have been created by them ! Without them in picture things were bright and natural !
11- Their “care” has an expiry date. This loving and devoted behaviour lasts only until the damage is fully done.
12- They will blame you later and will say spiteful things like “ Oh aren’t you an adult ! How can a third person spoil things , don’t you have your own brain” while having a smirk! and after all this , if they see you turning things around in your life , such a lickspittle will come back faking apologies and will repeat the same. The smirk will wipe off ! They will worry that it still isn’t destroyed fully so now they have to mend things to be close again to inflict harm.
13- This is not love — it is jealousy, control, envy, and manipulation politics. Real ones handle your life matters the way they handle their own.
14- If they are wise and private about their own projects, dreams, career, or relationships until they fully manifest,
Then they will treat your matters with the same discretion and maturity — if they truly care about you.
They protect what is in progress.
15- They understand that not everything needs to be announced early. They respect timing and privacy.
16- If you are going wrong somewhere, they correct you — not sabotage you.
They step in to guide you.
They give honest advice.
They do not gaslight you.
They do not add fuel, lies, or negativity to worsen the situation.
When people hype things before their time, it is intentional.
They gossip.
They highlight unfinished matters.
They exaggerate situations.
They twist information.
They add lies.
They make it a public topic on purpose.
This creates pressure and negativity.
The goal becomes building drama around you.
Too many people get involved.
They stir conversations repeatedly.
They manufacture chaos.
The result is sabotage.
The pressure, lies, and twisted narratives create instability.
Things that could have grown peacefully get ruined.
“Too many cooks spoil the broth” — and sometimes it is done deliberately.
That is not care. That is control disguised as concern.
17- You have to see them for who they are- Sneaky, sly haters who just want to remain close to destroy you by guiding you wrong and manipulating everyone’s perspective with their lies. Some people, no matter what they have and where they are today will still get jealous because they know how they achieved that !
18- Deep down, when they sit in silence they know their ugly personality, they know nobody loves or likes them truly, they repeat your insights and perspectives to gain praise and attention ; the minute they get it they take joy in that but they know this is all fake. They know if people ever saw their real personality and knew what they have done to many, all this wouldn’t be here and this truth irks them 24×7… No one loves/ likes them. They all love and like the mask- The mask which is a mixture of many personalities- Observed ,mimicked what they saw as unique and original in their relative’s persona or some other females or any other peripheral people they came across.
19- They harm and then become the first ones to come and show fake concern and their love is just a performance to beat the enemy because they have always been competing secretly and hating. They see you as a rival and this only will worsen with time! The only way they can win this so called one sided race is by being close to stab – they can’t and won’t ever openly compete with their relatives and friends because they don’t have anything to win , what they do is they try to destroy what you got ! Such people who can do for themselves but they don’t and leech off others , you think they ever wish you well ! Or are genuinely concerned about your life ? They didn’t even take care of themselves ! They don’t have principles, morals, conscience and integrity. But to control others they exude this leadership vibe as if they are the authority, they are the guardians , the providers and everyone around must comply without questioning !
20- This “poor me”, “woe is me” is a facade to use others and then this strong false persona comes out to control other’s lives as if everyone is dependent on them for everything whereas it’s the opposite ! This is the biggest proof that they are your biggest hater!
21- You do it all and more and more but they destroy homes and families because that’s how they are. And those they haven’t harmed yet are the ones either under their thumb , who haven’t triggered their evil side yet , who haven’t outshined them in anything , who don’t know their real side yet and who are extremely powerful that if messed with will destroy in return !
22- They play “one enemy at a time” , just to convince others you’re the problem, they will even mend things with others and will become extra nice to the whole community while destroying your bond with others. If you look at their pattern, apart from the ones they are currently grooming and some loyal flying monkeys; they have always scammed, harmed, exploited and created destruction in everyone’s life around them.
23- They were this way since always even before you were ever in the picture and they will be this way forever and ever ; the only thing that changes – Their sly and strategic cunning nature becomes more insidious. Their sweet talking with so much conviction is an illusion to get access to ruin it all.
A dangerous fake well wisher will pull out their biggest weapon when everything else fails –
they will even pretend that they are okay and happy with your decision / choice just to make you forgive and accept them back in your life, they will pretend to be happy for you ( an alibi) and like a psychopath will surely try to harm you because this is the last resort, you have left them no choice ! In their head you betrayed them ! You were their puppet, you were their magic wand , you were their genie , you also were under their thumb and now they can’t lose all this! They aren’t the main character in your life anymore. You don’t walk on eggshells anymore.
You are not devoted to them anymore.
You are protecting what’s yours now ! How dare you betray them ? You were groomed and conditioned for so long to be all about them for entire life ! How can you leave the plot and beautiful happy ending midway ? They put so much hard work, they planned and plotted for so long ! In their mind, they worked hard and went so low for this so they deserve this! How can you decide to start living for yourself ? You were supposed to just take a little break for yourself and make sure that 80% of your time, money , attention remains on them even if they don’t need it .
Truth is they never needed you, they kept you stuck and small so that you won’t go from 7 to 10 in all areas of your life and they can go from 0-10 in all areas of their life by stealing your everything.
