Imagine you’re deep cleaning before the festival Diwali and a lot of de clutter happens and then there’s someone whose house is never deep cleaned ! They keep it all there hidden deep down somewhere and act all perfect. Nothing comes out of their house! And they act all perfect in front of those who just removed all the clutter; same way some people as individuals and as a couple feign their so called “we are such a happy couple everyone must also have an arranged marriage ( if they had an arranged one ) wanting others to also marry seeing money and practical reasons because they did and look how happy they are !

If they are not turning their passion into profession then you shouldn’t either.

If they live a shallow hedonistic life then you must also follow the same.

Miss Misery loves company! 

Truth is no one who is truly happy tries to control other’s lives specially when they needed dozens of people around everyday to just get by ! After using everyone around and harming them such people become clingy advisors and torch bearers of self made journey! They even copy other’s path and stories. Act like they lived it whereas the life they lived is totally opposite.

 

I have observed in society that people who are in toxic relationships appear healthy on the outside by hiding all the mess under the carpet while pressuring those who as an individuals and as a couple are willing to work upon themselves ! I mean some couples have that love for each other which is clearly making them evolve and heal; healing isn’t an aesthetically appealing process on the outside.

90% of the time If people are guiding you against something, it is surely gonna evolve you as a person and will make you reach your highest potential.

Some people who act damsel and weak in their own life matters keep advising you for a long time while screaming into the pillow behind the scene. They act like a nonchalant advisor, planting seeds of doubt and fear and then saying “fine go ahead but don’t you remember that time” …… don’t you come crying later to me then etc etc .

Sometimes toxic advice isn’t direct , it appears calm and it’s “I don’t care what decision you’re gonna take” while behind the scenes they are sitting and biting their nails, obsessing over your life , trying to turn others against under the guise of concern, making their flying monkeys control the situation if they can’t themselves control it directly, when rest all fails they make all the mutual friends and relatives believe that they are concerned about you and your well-being and then if you won’t comply then you lose everyone. That’s control and toxic relationship dynamics!

If I say that true well-wishers stop interfering after a certain point and leave things to laissez-faire but they are so cunning and strategic because they know how to abuse by proxy- they stop interfering directly because now their flying monkeys who don’t even know 10% truth are doing their work so why interfere directly at all. The damage is done now; they sit back and act like this situation is your own making . This abuse is so covert that only the victims see true faces of evil , others fall for the facade and side with them which later on messes up everyone’s karma.

Don’t judge things based on whats being shown to you !! A lot is being hidden from you !

The world is needing big time healing.

You need healing as individuals and as couples! Most men choose looks and most women choose money and then they act like we are perfect while living a soulless married life, while not being in love ever and it shows no matter how much they hide it because it can be seen, not in pictures they post nor the way they behave in social gatherings ! It can be seen in –  how they are obsessed in creating chaos in other’s lives specially when they come across people who are shining bright due to their self healing journey! When they come across couples who are in love and working on themselves and also on their bond .

These pseudo perfect couples are just living together for their own selfish agendas and if not both then one of them is ! that’s why they are hellbent on making sure that no one else around gets to live an authentic, loving, organic life and relationships. They didn’t have courage, strength and emotions to ever find love in their own evil hearts and in world !
They don’t know what love is and they don’t even want it. Like a dog in the manger they just don’t want others to have that experience and life.

Their main life actually isn’t their marriage and home. These women’s main life is actually chaos, rivalries, disputes, starting drama, competing all because someone else is not a couch potato sit pretty all day type and now these women too have to mimic this persona because if they don’t do same things then others will notice who’s who and major difference between two people ! You started a whole psychopathic criminal kind of story here and now you have to handle and save your face. These women one day will regret why did they start a war just because someone was more than looks and wasn’t a gold digger hedonist !

Because honestly all this copying and pretence is exhausting ! You enjoy a certain way of life and acting mean, rude , someone who will throw tantrums and arrogance ( a cover up to hide issues and inferiority complex) ( the new money vibe is so obvious if you see clearly ) this is the time they waited for and now they can’t even enjoy it properly.

A divine feminine spirit woman is “Not too good to be true” but she is  a “too good and too true”   and this woman is such a spoilsport !! Spoiled the perfect plan and plot ( Be humble but don’t deny expressing because when you don’t show your goodness people start telling lies about who you are to others )

Such a woman came into the picture and ruined things for the Jezebel spirit woman who had plans for everyone around; everything was going perfectly, she was manipulating everyone and had everyone wrapped around her finger. 

If you want to see how real a woman is-

See how she is treating others and most importantly how she treats herself ? She loves herself and heals herself ? and what is her presence bringing in your life ; does she set an example or only preaches ?

Getting everything by hook or crook and never satisfied ever doesn’t show how lucky a woman is, lucky women are those whose presence brings healing for others around. Takers act like they are so it. What have they ever done for anyone else but themselves! 

A true soul will  tell you how they did it and how you can do it yourself !

They won’t tell you – look how I did it and now depend on me ! They won’t make you dependent

Their love and friendship would bring healing and healing isn’t aesthetically pleasing. It is messy , it is painful and it brings out all the suppressed parts of you which benefits in the long run

They will share wisdom which will awaken your own inner wisdom

For example – If you’re hungry they would love to prepare a meal for you but once in a while they will also wish to teach you and may ask you to stand there and learn just in case you have to look after yourself some day in life.

Anyone who truly cares about you will always wish to see you healed and independent and anyone who wishes to only fulfil their agendas through you, will always keep you fully dependent on them for everything. 

The wicked ones want you to remain unhealed, fearful and stuck because it favours them big time.

They will keep giving you your comfort zone and unhealthy coping mechanism which is devastating in long term.